"Should I quit my job?" is a terrifying question. "Should I update my resume?" is not. This is the essence of shrinking a decision.

Overwhelming decisions paralyze us because we try to solve the entire problem at once. The trick is to reframe the big, scary commitment into the smallest possible first step—a step that requires minimal commitment and has minimal risk.

The Shrinking Process:

1. State the big, scary decision: "Should I move to a new city?"
2. Ask "What's the absolute first, tiny, reversible step?": This isn't "look for apartments." It's "spend 30 minutes researching three neighborhoods online."
3. Take that tiny step. Notice how it feels. You've now made progress without taking a huge leap.
4. From there, ask again: "What's the *next* tiny, safe step?" Maybe it's "subscribe to a weekly rental listing email."

You never have to make the big decision. You just have to make a series of tiny ones. Eventually, you'll have enough information and confidence that the "big" decision will feel obvious and not scary at all.